What does coaching accomplish?

Quality coaching is about much more than individual skills - it’s about orchestrating those skills together to accomplish a process.

I believe it should also be about an acredited, accountable process.

The  process developed by Robert Logan is one that I have used very successful with Church, Military, Community and Corporate clients.

The coaching process can be summed up in the 5 Rs:

  • Relate: establish coaching relationship and agenda
  • Reflect: discover and explore key issues
  • Refocus: determine priorities and action steps
  • Resource: provide support and encouragement
  • Review: evaluate, celebrate, and revise plans

By taking someone through this coaching process, a coach can help that person accomplish his or her goals. Skills are needed to achieve that process, but must be used with this bigger picture in mind to achieve the desired ends.

So much that is attempting to pass for Executive Coaching is little more that a reworking of a life skills class. Once you sit with or look at the best practices of most coaches today, it falls into the role of either mentoring, counseling or consulting.

All of those practices are great, but they are not coaching.

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The truth is, you can’t help people.

I know, it sounds odd for someone in the “people business” to say this, but it is a reality.

Week after week I have people come to me and say: “Can you help me?” or, “I want to change, please tell me now.”

And you sit with them, give them wisdom and insight, then off they go and it is the same old, same old.

The ones that I personally find disconcerting are those that say they want to be leaders. You invest in them your time and resources, give them opportunity and they say, “thank you,” and then do nothing with it.

People will only change if they want to.

That is why I wait when selecting leaders or promoting people.

That is why I take my time appointing leaders.

That is why I watch and keep my eye out for the silent ones. The ones that don’t say much but week after week turn up and give of themselves in any way that they can.

In life, in leadership, in business, the only thing you can give people is an opportunity.

So, if an opportunity is all you can give, how do you choose whom to give one to?

1) The faithful

In leadership, always reward faithfulness.

Faithfulness is not a one time gig.

Faithfulness is the constant fulfillment of your obligations and commitments over time.

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The Drive of a Leader

Let me start by saying…I love my job. I didn’t say my job was easy. I didn’t say it was not without cost and conflict…but I love it, because I am passionate about what I do.

Thomas Edison said, “I never did a day’s work in my life. It was all fun!”

The key to finding your passion is knowing your purpose. You will achieve one without knowing the other.

Passion keeps us going when others quit. Passion is contagious.

It gives us the energy and drive to get through the obstacles, the hurdles, even the accusations.

Passion is the power we did not know we possessed. Passion is a real difference-maker. It is the “extra” in extraordinary.

The word passion is from the Latin passio, which means to suffer, to be acted upon. It is an emotion that is distinct from reason. Passion is an intense, driving, overriding devotion to an object or an activity.

I don’t believe that you can be a truly great leader if you are not passionate about what you do and the importance of the mission.

A truly great leader is consumed with the vision, the calling, the romance, the adventure, the insane possibilities and also the insane risks of everything they do. This doesn’t mean that you are flaky…just consumed, passionate, driven.

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5 Reasons Why People Resist Learning

1. People find it difficult to admit a deficiency.

People allow their disappointment to dampen their life instead of refine their determination to change.

2. People can’t live with mess.

Learning is messy.

Learning means you have to actively pursue failure.

I am a spectacular failure in many areas of my life – once upon a time that is the reason I am seeing success in some areas.

Failure is the fuel for personal growth.

3. We live in a state of judgment not learning instead of learning from life.

Learning from people or new situations we judge them.

We judge ourselves by what we can’t do.

We judge our lives by what we feel can’t take place.

We judge opportunities instead of appreciating them.

4. We fall into the ‘perfect people syndrome.’

We feel we are constantly on trail therefore we have to always present ourselves as being perfect.

The only way you can learn and grow is to identify a deficiency or a need or an area you desire to grow in.

5. We don’t give people permission to speak into our lives and situations.

We give life service to accountability.

We give lip service to submission.

We give lip service to the concepts of being pastured or coach.

But when it really comes down to it, what we are after is permission to stay the same, do the same, be the same.

We don’t like to be challenged because that implies a response.

And response imply choices.

And choice implies change.

And change implies learning.

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Designing a Blueprint for your Life.

Human beings are creatures of comfort and convenience that shy away from arduous that produce stress & discomfort.

Most of life is lived by people in some sort of mindless trance.

Now this may save energy for the brain when we don’t have to consciously make choices, but it doesn’t bring to us any real level of satisfaction or fulfillment.

To design or in most cases, redesign your life so that you are living with conscious purpose not in unconscious trance, is the aim of a passionate coach…that is what I like to help people do.

I like to help people connect on a very deep & personal level to that and those that are deeply important to you, to Design the Blueprint for your life.

Design: to create, fashion, execute and construct according to a plan.

Blueprint: a detailed plan or program of action.

Remember we create our life through or intentions, our courage and or abilities.

We construct our world daily by the dreams that you have, the words that you speak the values that you hold and the decisions that you make.

Friend you need to inhabit your life, not just pass through it.

Firing People the Right Way

I often find myself talking to people about how to transition key staff members or key leaders within their organization either into new roles or into the next stage of there career…OUTSIDE of the organization.

And will all issues concerning dealing with people, there is a right way and the other way….

Every Life Needs Three Statements

A Purpose Statement is a compass that helps keep you on course, it is the gyro that brings you back to center is you get out of kilter.

A Vision statement is a reflection of you calling. It is that vocation that you can give yourself to unreservedly.

It is the occupation that you can give yourself to unreservedly

A Mission statement is a statement that breaks down the particular, of you purpose & Vision statement. It is the fine print to there headline.

Together all 3 of these things will enable you to live from the inside out.

They will help you navigate a course in life of deep meaning purpose and personal satisfaction.